Over the past couple of years as I’ve been dancing down the path to erotic bliss and sexual healing and awakening, I’ve encountered and embodied several different energies or archetypes within myself. 

I’ve also talked with several women in my personal circle who resonate with the archetypes I’m going to share with you.

While there are countless archetypes that we can play with, I’ve found that there are five that I feel strongly connected to at this stage in my life and journey.  

I’ve had this article sitting in my ‘drafts’ on my website for like six months now and I decided it was time to unveil these archetypes to you. 

I’ll be writing more pieces on these five archetypes to come, because they’ve been so much fun for me to explore solo and I think they’ll help us identify with the different energies and rhythms we experience day to day as sexual women. ​

There’s a different erotic archetype to play with, for example, when you…

• ​Feel like your libido has disappeared or you’re “just not that sexual of a woman”
• Going through different cycles as a woman like your period, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, menopause, etc.
• Are struggling with sexual habits like hyper-sexuality, manipulation of others sexually, fear, trauma, shame or a dark need to fulfill
• Feel extra shy in the sack 
• Feel turned on while walking through the forest smelling the aromatic nectars of beautiful, blossoming flowers
• Want to cuddle, eye gaze, make love and be showered with affectionate romance for hours on end
• Want to use your sexual energy to perform solo (or partnered!) sex magic
• Feel like being fucked up against a wall wearing stilettos and fishnet stockings

Allow me to introduce you lovingly to each of these five archetypes…

EROTIC INNOCENT

Words to describe the Erotic Innocent Archetype: Erotic/sexual/sensual innocence, maiden, youthful, playful, curious, sweet, pure, whole, gentle

The Erotic Innocent seeks playfulness and innocence in herself and her lover. She is curious, playful, gentle, loving, open-hearted and even slightly shy. 

The shadow side of the Erotic Innocent is the perversion of innocence. Feeling a sense of your innocence being taken away or “raped,” whether literally or metaphorically. She may use her shyness to avoid trusting or being seen.

Examples of this might be the times where you feel like you’re “not very sexual (aka horny)” or you’re not turned on for one reason or another. Another example is when you find yourself feeling shame for craving intimacy, cuddling, playfulness or a little space as opposed to other styles of sex, intimacy or connection — like being super turned on and lubricated, having kinky sex with someone, etc. 

For inspiration, you can view a Pinterest board I made for the Erotic Innocent.

EROTIC LOVER

Words to describe the Erotic Lover Archetype: Romantic, beloved, lover, loving, loved, luxurious, sensuous, loves fiercely with her full heart, emotionally connected, heart centered

The Erotic Lover seeks to love and be loved. She seeks heart and emotional connection. Romance. To be seduced. This style of sex would be perhaps referred to as lovemaking. 

The shadow side of the Erotic Lover is that she often gives in to submission from a disempowered place. During sex she may lie there, waiting for it to be over or feeling as though she’s just a body being masturbated into. She may not allow herself to ask for what she wants or receive in a space that feels good, especially to remain loved or superficially connected to her partner. Every touch might make her skin crawl.

She may find herself never pursuing her sexual or emotional needs and submitting, not from a space of true surrender, safety and trust with her partner, but from a space of disempowered submission or even obligation. She may also take her heart out of the experience completely to protect herself from feeling abandoned or unloved. 

You can view my Pinterest board on the Erotic Lover for inspiration here.

SEXUAL PRIESTESS

Words to describe the Sexual Priestess Archetype: Sacred sexuality, sex magic, Tantric/Tantrika, divine, goddess, enlightenment and embodiment, ecstasy, Oneness, divine union, spiritual, Eros 

The Sexual Priestess seeks Oneness and Eros — sexual love — the ultimate union of love and sex with herself, her lover and the divine (whatever that means for her). A menage a trois with the divine and her lover. 

She’s the one in the temple using her sexuality to heal herself and/or others. 

The shadow side of the Sexual Priestess is that she may find other styles of sex or connection that aren’t considered “spiritual, Tantric or Taoist-based (for example)” to be shallow, boring, unenlightened or “unconscious.”

She may be too caught up in using sex as a way of always seeking ecstasy, love or oneness as opposed to fully relaxing and enjoying the moment and magic of every sexual situation. Whether it’s a 5-minute quickie, a 2 hour romantic lovemaking session or a lusty rendezvous in a dark alley.

You can view my Pinterest board for inspiration on the Sexual Priestess here. (You can also see inspiration for the Sex Witch here too. See below!)

SHADOW SEDUCTRESS

Words to describe the Shadow Seductress Archetype:  Dark, lusty, seductive, need, seedy, kinky, taboo, shame, slut, whore

The Shadow Seductress seeks to honor, explore and embody darkness in her and her lover — nothing is off limits. She especially loves to play within the realm of the taboo (like choking, anal sex, BDSM, darker fantasies) and using sexuality to work with shame.

She craves to explore the darkest deeds and needs. To seduce and be seduced. To fuck and be fucked. To penetrate and be penetrated. To claim and be claimed. To dominate and be dominated. She wants to be FUCKED INTO by her lover (or her own darkness/herself) and to FUCK INTO her lover (or her own darkness/herself).

The even deeper, darker shadow of the Shadow Seductress is that she may seek to manipulate, seduce or harm using her sexuality or she may shame herself without accepting her shame. While that dark, seductive energy is underlying in her original form, it is usually encouraged to be channeled in a safe, sacred space and not enacted on someone or something.

An example would be her longing to manipulate a man to satisfy her ego’s needs of being desired and loved. The “healthy” side of the Shadow Seductress would FEEL, EMBODY and CHANNEL this manipulative energy into herself in a way of accepting, loving and honoring it, but the “shadow” side of the Shadow Seductress would be to go out to a bar, seduce someone and go home feeling like shit after potentially fucking with the man’s mind. 

The beauty of the Shadow Seductress is that she represents all sides of the holy and more ego-based darker sexuality. It’s all lovable, acceptable and okay. 

You can view my Pinterest board for inspiration on the Shadow Seductress here. 

SEX WITCH

Words to describe the Sex Witch: Sex magic, darkness, nature, spells, ritual, witchy

The Sex Witch is a bit of a hybrid energy (at least for me right now) between the dark, sexual energy of the Shadow Seductress and the sex magic side of the Sexual Priestess, but there’s something very earthy and wild underneath her energy. 

The Sex Witch seeks to use sex as a means to connect with herself, the elements and nature. She uses sex magic and her body to transmute her darkness into light. While the Shadow Seductress Archetype does perform some transmutation as well through allowing her shadowy nature to be loved, accepted and brought into the conscious mind — the awareness of love and light — it’s not meant to manipulate her nature into something more “loving” or “light” or “good.” 

The Sex Witch dances with her darkness and is turned on by nature. She’s connected to the erotic pulse of life-force energy that resides deep in mother earth’s belly and in all of life from the plants, herbs, animals and more. She uses her sensuous nature to seduce magic out of herself and her lovers. She is only interested in performing some form of Alchemy to connect with her Higher Self or nature. 

The Sex Witch is definitely my own personal access to my higher self as a woman connected to all of nature and the primal nature of it all; the cycles, the rhythms, the moon, herbs, magic, plants, rituals, etc. 

The shadow side of the Sex Witch is that she may isolate herself away from others in fear of losing herself. She might prefer to be in ritual alone than engaging with a lover, hiding her magic away for fear of being persecuted, burned at the stake or thought to be crazy or dangerous.

Now an invitation for you to go deeper:

• What archetypes do you personally resonate with right now?
• Which archetype do you feel the least connected to?
• Are there other sexual archetypes that feel present for you?
• How does the shadow side of any archetype show up for you? 

By the way, I’m feeling very sex witch lately 😉 What about you? 

With love,

Amber

P.S. I have a juicy opportunity for you to play with your erotic archetypes (especially the sex witch!) coming your way very soon. Keep an eye on out over the next few weeks. Make sure to join my newsletter list and erotic woman tribe by downloading my jade egg ebook below so you don’t miss out on this exclusive invite <3

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