Inside of every single woman is an ancient, yet new, power that resides deep within her womb, coiled like a sleepy snake. It awakens within her, thus awakening her yoni, pulsing deliciously and erotically through her entire body. Coursing through her. Allowing her to create.
This energy is inside of you. You can call it whatever you like–erotic energy, orgasmic energy, sexual energy, Shakti, Kundalini, prana, etc.–or nothing at all. It requires no label. This sacred, sexual power and creative, life-force energy allows you to create not only the potential of physical life (i.e. a baby), but it also allows you to channel that energy into creating your life, relationships, body, health, and desires by design. Isn’t that amazing?
Feel into how profound and fabulous it is to have this power and sexual energy inside of you (at all times!), ready to help you heal, awaken, and embody your sensuality deeper while creating the life, sex, body, and relationship(s) of your wildest, erotic dreams. Mmm delicious!
So how do we harness this sexual energy? By getting TURNED ON!
I’m going to share with you one of my favorite self-love and self-pleasure rituals where you get super juiced up, turned on, embodied sensually, and then actually HARNESS and CHANNEL your erotic, orgasmic, sexual energy through the power of your orgasm to manifest what you desire in your body and life!
Why through orgasm? Orgasms, or climax to be exact, are one of the most powerful and fastest ways to get into your pleasure, arousal, and to connect with your truth. When you climax, you are experiencing the feel-good release of hormones, like oxytocin, which relieves stress, helps you sleep better, and makes your skin glow like that of a radiant queen! Sounds yummy, right?
The power of orgasm (climax) is much deeper than that and the ritual I’m going to share with you is more focused on the divine and sacred benefits of your sexuality and orgasmic energy, which is always present inside of you. When you orgasm, you can see and feel God–whatever that means for you. God/dess, Universe, Source, the Divine, Mother Earth, whatever it be. It brings you into your divinity–your highest Self. The Goddess, Priestess and Sacred Queen archetypes that ecstatically dance and erotically play within your body, heart, and soul.
Orgasm (or simply stirring up and harnessing your orgasmic, sexual energy) unites you with Divine Love. It brings you deeper and deeper into WHO you are and WHY you’re here on this beautiful earth, in this time and space reality. It drops you right down into a state of embodied ecstasy, pleasure, love, sensuality, and Oneness. During orgasm you realize that you are infinite, One, abundant, loved, loving, formless, limitless, forever expanding, and that you are a Divine being (a Goddess!) at your very core.
What could be more powerful than using THAT energy to create your life?
I would bravely venture to say that there is nothing more powerful than using the ancient, sacred, sexual power INSIDE of you to receive, create (or co-create), and call in what you desire through orgasmic manifestation.
That’s just my personal opinion and experience though, so if you’re curious to try it out, allow me to lovingly lead you step-by-step through the pleasure maze of my Self-Love Orgasm Ritual–to call in whatever you desire and MORE, of course!
IMPORTANT! Before you get started with your self-love, self-pleasure ritual, try out a few of these sensual rituals beforehand to really get the love flowing along with getting you safely into your sensuality AND your pleasure, turn on, and sexual energy!
Create Safe, Sacred Space (A Sensual Sanctuary): In order to experience the most pleasure, healing, awakening, and manifestation during your ritual, it’s essential to create a sacred space aka a sensual sanctuary for your Self-Love Orgasm Ritual. After all, the #1 block I’ve found that keeps a lot of women (myself included for the longest time) from healing, awakening, and fully embodying their sensuality, pleasure, and sexuality is not feeling safe to do so.
Open Your Heart: I like to really dive into my heart space and crack her wide open deliciously before I do any kind of self-pleasure ritual. Your orgasmic manifestation ritual will be AMPLIFIED with a full, loving, orgasmic heart that is ripe with passion, pleasure, love, and desire–for yourself! Plus you’ll have that radiant glow that comes with truly loving yourself.
You can give yourself a delicious, heart-opening breast massage with warm coconut oil. Feel free to add other sacred oils that bring about love, passion, and femininity, like rose oil (or rose hip seed oil). I’ll be sharing a breast massage ritual with you next week, so stay tuned, lover.
Before you get started with your breast massage or your self-pleasure ritual, rub your palms together vigorously, imagining your sexual energy awakening and flowing into your hands.
Then, place your hands on your heart and breathe deeply, drawing energy from your yoni into your heart on the inhale, pulsing your pelvic floor muscles on each inhale, and exhaling the energy back down into your yoni, releasing the hold on your pelvic floor muscles.
Sometimes I like to have some raw cacao before any kind of self-pleasure or sensual ritual, because it helps you to open your heart. I’m going to be hosting a free online temple within the next few weeks combined with a heart-opening, sensual cacao ceremony, so if you’re interested in joining, make sure to sign up for my email love letters (you can sign up below this blog post and get access to the Sensually Embodied Woman Masterclass too!)
Here are a few other resources:
Awaken Your Sensuality With a Sacral Activation Cacao Ceremony
Sacred Feminine Rose Chocolate Hot Tonic
Get Into Your Body (Embodiment): I really love to get deep into my body and pleasure sensually before I begin to touch myself sexually. You can do erotic, sensual, or ecstatic dance, sensual yoga, or rub your whole body down with warm oil while breathing deeply.
If you need to clear any heavy emotions (like rage, grief, or frustration, to name a few), shake your entire body from head to toe and focus on opening your heart for a while before moving into your ritual so you are FEELING GOOD before you get started. You don’t want to manifest more of those emotions that sit heavy within you, but they do need to be witnessed, felt, embodied, and released in a healthy manner before you begin.
Sexy Shakti Breathing Techniques: This is using your breath to awaken, embody, and begin to circulate or move your sexual energy (Shakti) through your whole body. The reason this is a crucial step is because you don’t want your pleasure and turn on solely localized and focused in your vulva or vagina.
You want to spread that healing, loving, orgasmic energy through your whole entire body and being! This will not only intensify and amplify the climax itself (if you do actually experience climax), but it will also help you distribute that energy to amplify your passion, desire, and your manifestation. Get ready to say hello to your wildest, hottest, and most satiating desires, lover!
You can try out the Breathe & Pulse technique, breathe into your womb, heart, and yoni or you can try other orgasmic breathing techniques.
I also love the Microcosmic Orbit, which is a Taoist breathing exercise circulating sexual energy from your perineum up the back of your spine into your crown, and then placing your tongue at the roof of your mouth behind your front teeth, you circulate it back down the front of your body into your perineum again. I like to give my yoni muscle a squeeze on each inhale and release on the exhale.
Another important note to keep in mind:
While this ritual is based on orgasm/climax, I always recommend going into your self-pleasure rituals, whether for manifestation purposes or simply to explore and feel pleasure, without a goal in mind (like climax).
The last thing you want is to put a whole bunch of pressure on yourself and get up in your head and out of your body, sensuality, sexual energy, and pleasure–where you’re actually supposed to be!
Regardless of whether you achieve climax or not, your orgasmic, sexual energy will still be circulating throughout your whole body and it’s deeply potent that way, too!
However, if you happen to achieve orgasm in the form of climax (or multiple!), then it just adds that extra oomph to your manifestation! Plus the more you self-pleasure, the easier it becomes for you to become orgasmic and achieve climax, because every single woman (yes, you included!) is capable of having orgasms on all levels.
If you suffer from a lot of trauma in regards to your sensuality and/or sexuality, here are a few helpful resources for you to check out.
Reclaiming Our Innocence Through Sexual Healing
Juicy Tips to Heal Your Body Through Your Sensuality
Sacred Musings: Leaning Into Your Edge, Alchemy & Sexual Healing
The Importance of Receiving Pleasure
Now that you’re sensually warmed up with an open heart and all of that yumminess, let’s get into the Self-Love Orgasm Ritual…
STEP ONE–SET AN INTENTION:
In order to call in whatever you desire and manifest your dreams and sensual desires through this Self-Love Orgasm Ritual, you must have clarity on what it is that you want first. You have to get clear on your intention(s). What do you want to call in? Most importantly, how do you want to FEEL? How is this manifestation going to make you feel when it comes to fruition?
You want to start to bring those feelings in beforehand. Do you want to call in a certain amount of money? A client? A partner or lover? A new home? How will you feel when that manifests? How can you bring those feelings in NOW?
Say your intention out loud three times. You can say it in your head if you like, but I’ve found there’s something deeply powerful about combining your sexual energy and sensuality with voice activation (throat chakra).
STEP TWO–BEGIN TO TOUCH YOUR BODY
Start to stimulate your entire body–from head to toe! I love doing the feather seduction technique where you drag a peacock feather (or your fingertips) along your whole body slowly and sensually. (I teach an in depth ritual of this in my online salon Awaken Your Sensuality. You can join the waiting list for the next round here.)
Stimulate your entire breast region, your nipples, your feet, fingertips, lips, the whole entire vulva. Play with different regions of your body that are known as erogenous and areas that you wouldn’t think would be.
This is the beauty of self-pleasure. It allows you to find what feels good and awaken new channels energetically and physically within the body so you can actually feel MORE pleasure and harness even more orgasmic energy. That also translates to stronger, deeper, longer, more fulfilling orgasms
You can simply stroke your body with your fingers or you can use a jade egg or Shakti wand (a dildo made of crystal, such as obsidian for removing negative energy and blocks or rose quartz for opening the heart and cultivating deep self-love). For resources on jade eggs and/or Shakti wands, check out my Sexual Energy Masterclass & Embodiment Ritual.
If you need lubrication, I recommend some organic coconut oil, but the more healing you do with your sensuality and sexuality, the more lubricated your yoni will become naturally and the higher your libido will be as well.
STEP THREE–DEEPEN YOUR PLEASURE THROUGH TOUCH:
As you deepen into your pleasure, see if you can play with your sexual edges. You can think about sexual fantasies if you want or even the manifestation itself, but try to remain grounded in your body, pleasure, sensuality, and orgasmic energy in the here and now. Stay present with your pleasure. Don’t disconnect from your body by getting caught up solely in a fantasy, but you can definitely use fantasy or thinking of your manifestation to play with the energies there.
Try different strokes and let your pleasure deepen as you continue touching and pleasuring yourself. Imagine bringing the FEELINGS of your intention/manifestation desire into your body as you touch yourself.
STEP FOUR–CIRCULATE YOUR ORGASMIC ENERGY:
As you continue self-pleasuring, begin to raise and circulate your orgasmic, sexual energy aka Shakti through your whole body or even to a specific chakra if you want to heal, awaken, or activate a certain chakra.
You can do this through the Microcosmic Orbit I described above or by simply imagining the sexual energy raising from your yoni (whether it’s your clitoris, g-spot, cervix, etc.) to a specific area (chakra) or up into the crown of your head on the inhale and back down into your yoni on the exhale. Keep feeling the energy moving, raising, flowing, circulating, and awakening you fully.
STEP FIVE–PLAY WITH SOUND (FIFTH CHAKRA):
As you continue breathing this sexual energy, circulating it and pleasuring yourself, start to sound out on the exhale. Sound carries your sexual energy further, intensifies and amplifies your orgasm (for real!!), and plants the seed of your intentions as you start to get closer to climax.
You don’t need to moan like a porn star, but let yourself play with it. As you raise the sexual energy from your root chakra, which may have a very low, guttural sound when you moan, to the crown chakra, which starts to sound more like ahhhh (especially in the heart region), you’ll notice changes in how you moan or sound. Let it come naturally.
Sometimes my moans last 10 seconds and are really low or really high like ahhhhhhh and then taper off into a lower sound. Other times, it’s higher pitched. You may find yourself processing emotions and sensations so if you need to laugh, cry, scream, or yell make sure you let yourself get it out!
STEP SIX–VOCALIZE YOUR DESIRE UPON CLIMAX:
As you begin to reach climax or when you are actually in the midst of climax, say your intention or desire out loud. You can scream it, moan it, whatever comes out! This is the powerful part as you combine your sexual energy, climax, and intention for manifestation. This is the most healing, self-loving part of the ritual as you come undone and let yourself go.
Again, if you don’t reach climax or you’re just not feeling it, you can just say your intention aloud right before you end your Self-Love Orgasm Ritual.
STEP SEVEN–STORE YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY & AFTERGLOW:
Bask in the glow of your radiance that comes when you harness your orgasmic energy and/or climax. Then, you can store your sexual energy. I have a few rituals you can check out here. Or you can simply imagine your sexual energy flowing into your Sexual Power Center (sacral chakra) and then imagine a warm, golden halo surrounding your whole entire body, preserving your sensuality, manifestation, and orgasmic energy.
STEP EIGHT–REPEAT THE RITUAL:
Repeat as many nights/days in a row as you like. The more you do this ritual with the same intention/desire, the faster it will manifest and come into fruition. Make sure you are doing things outside of the ritual to allow this desire of yours to come about. This might mean getting support, reaching out to someone, taking aligned and inspired action, or simply giving yourself the space to RECEIVE.
I’d love to know how this ritual goes for you. What are you trying to manifest? Have you ever used your orgasm to manifest before?
