There have been many moments where I’ve allowed my shyness to hold me back in the bedroom.
Tentative moments where I was afraid to touch my lover.
Lack of confidence in my own ability to please someone or even myself.
Feeling unsure of how my eroticism was coming across.
Afraid of being rejected or judged and shamed as “too much” or “not enough.”
I’ve had a lot of womxn share recently that they relate to feeling like they’re too shy to be a seductress/be seductive.
And it causes them to hide in the bedroom, repress their eroticism and as a result, they feel trapped, unfulfilled, numb, dissatisfied, turned off and hopeless.
I’m here to share more on this topic in my latest podcast episode.
I had so much fun recording this podcast episode because I actually took a few minutes before hitting record to turn myself on and seduce myself…
I put on a sexy song (Over by Honors), danced and eye gazed with myself in the mirror while touching, stroking and massaging myself lightly.
I even took a few sexy photos and videos of myself before recording just to take my self seduction even further.
I wanted to fully connect with my erotic self, because this week we’re talking about how your shyness, repressed eroticism or shame might be holding you back from fully unleashing and owning your seductress in the bedroom…
…and all of the erotic power, magnetism, pleasure, confidence and freedom that comes with being a seductress.
Here’s what we explore in this episode:
- My journey with the seductress archetype so far since I began connecting with her at the end of 2014
- One of the key moments that made me start to use my shyness as a way of hiding in the bedroom
- A few of my personal stories around not feeling seductive, confident or like I knew what I was doing when it came to seducing my lovers in the past
- What’s really behind your shyness & why it’s NOT just about your eroticism
- The sneaky ways you hide & how your shyness holds you back from fully unleashing & owning your seductress
- How to Burlesque your shyness & any other reasons why you think you aren’t a seductress or can’t be one
- How the roles of “the shy one,” “good girl” or “people pleaser” have been holding you back in the bedroom…& keeping your seductress trapped in the dark
- Why trying to seduce someone doesn’t always work & what actually does work (while feeling really fucking good for you at the same time)
- An erotic game you can play today that’s super simple & sets you up to connect with your seductress easily
I’d love for you to SUBSCRIBE on iTunes and leave me a review — it will help the podcast get out.
This podcast is explicit and NSFW so make sure to put on headphones or do what you need to do to listen with pleasure, comfort and safety.
Thanks for listening and enjoy, lover…
Have you signed up for the 5-Day Seductress Experience yet?
If not, what are you waiting for?
Join us here & come play. We start tomorrow Thursday April 9th.
I see you, you sexy little minx. You’re already being a coy seductress…
I’d love to share a teaser of what we’ll be experiencing during the 5 days of Seductress.
Day 1: WHO IS YOUR SEDUCTRESS & WHAT IS HER DEEPEST DESIRE SHE CRAVES TO HAVE FULFILLED?
What does being a seductress mean to you? Who IS your unique inner seductress? How can you seduce her out to play?
Every part/aspect of us has a desire that it wants for itself/us…since it’s a part of us, it will stop at nothing to get what it wants.
This is why we often have unconscious patterns running like saying you want to seduce your lover, yet shutting down or anticipating rejection instead.
Let’s seduce that desire out & fulfill it in a healthy, regulated way within ourselves & then watch out as you experience more confidence, pleasure & freedom in the bedroom.
Day 2: WHAT’S HER SEDUCTIVE SHADOW?
Every seductress has a shadow side. It could be repressed completely or overtly expressed in unhealthy, manipulative was that come out sideways.
This shadow isn’t bad, wrong or fucked up. She’s a sultry ally you want on your side, because she gets what she wants. Every fucking time.
Day 3: BURLESQUE IT
We’ll dive into how to use a technique I call “Burlesquing it” to bring total acceptance, pleasure, seduction & sexy permission to parts of you that you feel make you anti-seductress.
Stay tuned for a sexy sneak peek into this technique on a podcast episode coming this week about shyness in the bedroom holding you back from fully owning your seductress…coming soon.
Day 4: HER EROTIC EXPRESSION
How does she desire to be expressed? How does she dress? Vocalize her needs & cravings? What’s her erotic aesthetic & seductive adornment like?
Day 5: SELF SEDUCTION
We’ll put all of this embodied practice together & you’ll learn how to seduce yourself so good that you almost don’t need a lover…& if you have or want a lover, they better prepare to have their minds blown & their genitals pulsing, because your seductress is only getting started in her seductress initiation training.
Join the experience at https://bit.ly/seduceyourself
This is only available for a limited-time!
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
- Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprints. You can take the quiz here (I am an affiliate)
If you want to go deeper in community with other womxn who are also on their own erotic journeys, join my revamped Facebook group for womxn, Reclaiming Your Eroticism erotic play group.
Come follow me on Instagram where I share tons of erotic musings, rituals and practices to shed sexual shame and reclaim your true erotic nature, power and pleasure.
With seduction,
Amber