One of my absolute favorite times of the month, besides my period and the full moon, is the new moon. This threshold of darkness that unfolds before and during a new moon always invites me into such a deep state of magic, presence and erotic ecstasy.

The new moon is a time where new beginnings come into play. Where we are given the opportunity to experience rebirth after a month of manifesting and making things happen. New moons are ideal for planting the seeds of our desires to become impregnated and supercharged by our sexual energy. 

New moons have a way of initiating you into the deeper, darker parts of yourself while familiarizing you with your true desires. There’s a bit of mystery and enchantment that envelopes the new moon and has its wicked way with you. You’re invited to release what hasn’t been serving you throughout the past month and to step onto the path of your innermost desires. 

Each new moon has a unique energy depending on the astrological signs involved, but I often find myself doing sex magic and shadow work during the new moon – because they go so well together (which I teach in my course, SOLO SEX MAGIC). 

The reason why creating new moon rituals is so powerful is because ritual allows you to create a container where all of you intention, focus and sexual energy can channel directly. It’s contained, which makes it more powerful since your energy and intention are focused and harnessed, as opposed to leaking out or scattered all over the place. 

Ritual allows us to steep our intention like a tea bag in hot water. It creates richness, depth and a pleasurable way to connect, divine and open ourselves up to the magic, intuition and creativity within. Doing a new moon ritual is a very potent way to practice sex magic too, because there’s an open portal to your highest self – your own divinity. 

The practice of ritual invites us to slow down and the new moon is the perfect time to slow down, turn inward to dance with the darkness and reflect on what needs to go and what needs to come in. 

You don’t need to be into astrology or any other witchy or magical philosophies (unless that turns you on – it definitely turns me on) in order to create a new moon ritual, especially a sex magic infused ritual. 

If you’re intrigued by the concept of sex magic and want to learn how to do the full practice, you can download a free copy of my ebook Solo Sex Magic here and you’ll learn my step-by-step method and process. 

The New Moon in Sagittarius takes place on December 17th/18th, depending on where you’re located, when the moon aligns with the sun. I’m not an astrology expert so I recommend reading my favorite resource for all moon and astrology related events, Mystic Mamma.

This particular new moon feels like it’s going to be extra powerful since it’s happening in December, the last new moon of the year before we move into the new year of 2018. This new moon begins the descent into the darkest time of the year – the Winter Solstice, which happens on December 21st. 

Ritual sex magic is a practice that will help you tap into the most powerful energy in existence: your sexual energy. The energy that allows you to create not only a baby, but your life by design. Your new moon sex magic ritual can be incredibly simple or it can be filled with intricate little details, tools and other sacred items or practices. 

WHAT YOU NEED FOR YOUR NEW MOON SEX MAGIC RITUAL

You can customize your ritual to include or omit whatever you like, but here are some of my personal suggestions. Don’t be afraid to play, experiment and explore! The world of sex witchery and ritual magic is a limitless playground for you to explore. 

• Sacred, private space like your boudoir or a cozy spot in your living room or even outdoors if you can swing that (it’s cold as fuck here in Michigan so I’ll be doing my ritual indoors)
• Items that make your sacred space feel cozy, safe, erotic and bewitchingly sensual
• Candles of any kind (you can even buy sex magic or new moon candles online or in local witch shops)
• Rose petals or other flowers, whether it’s just the petals or flowers arranged in a vase
• Crystals to arrange in your space or meditate with
• Crystal dildo or other sex toys for the actual sex magic self pleasure practice (I love www.chakrubs.com or my obsidian crystal dildo)
• Oil or lube (I use coconut oil) for massage and lubrication when using sex toys or crystal dildos
• Jade egg
• Palo santo, sage or other sacred smudge herbs to burn
• Incense or resins to burn like myrrh, frankincense, dragons blood, copal etc.
• A piece of paper and a pen
• A cauldron or other fire-safe container
• Divination tools of choice: Tarot or Oracle cards, runes, scrying tools, etc. 

Gather the items you want to use. Again, it could be as simple as you have one candle plus a pen and paper to write your desires and intentions down. 

HOW TO DO YOUR NEW MOON SEX MAGIC RITUAL

Purify your space. Start out your ritual by opening the container and cleansing, clearing and purifying your body, space and mind. This is where the incense and smudge herbs or palo santo come in handy. They’re excellent ways to open your ritual container (or circle) and to cleanse and purify it. 

I love using palo santo with a black feather I have. I start out in the East direction and point my palo santo smoke in one hand and feather in the other as I move in a circle (clockwise) from East to South to West to North, invoking the elements Air (East), Fire (South), Water (West) and Earth (North). 

I also run the smoke around my body, womb, pussy and the entire ritual space. I imagine creating a sacred circle surrounding my space so that all of the sex magic and ritual practices I do are contained, channeled and supercharged there. 

If I’m using other items, like my obsidian wand, jade egg or Tarot cards, I’ll move the smoke around them as well to cleanse them. 

Imagine that whatever hasn’t been serving you up until now is releasing and moving out of you with every smoky embrace of your incense, smudge stick or palo santo. 

Invite your shadow self in. This is the perfect time to embrace your inner darkness. The parts of you that feel shamed, denied, unlovable and taboo, wrong, bad or evil even. Don’t be shy about dancing with or making love to your darkness. There is light in dark and dark in light. It’s all one in the same really. Duality allows us to embrace the truth of oneness. 

You can say a simple mantra like “I invite my shadow to join me” or “it’s safe for you to be here.”

Or if you’re like me, you can dress up like your shadow self (I call mine my inner shadow seductress – you can read about her here) complete with black lingerie, fishnet stockings and a whole lotta sexy attitude. I encourage you to find out what your inner shadow seductress wants, including what she wants to be called, how she wants to be expressed, dressed, anointed and played with.  

Choose one intention for your sex magic ritual. Towards the end of the ritual you can write down all of the things you desire to call in or manifest throughout the next month (or however long), but for now choose one intention you want to focus on when you do your sex magic. 

Here are a few examples:

Calling in an aligned lover who makes you feel loved, fulfilled and seen

Making x amount of money each month in a fun, easy way

Writing a popular article that goes viral

These desires might be more long-term, but when you do sex magic you’ll notice that baby steps naturally unfold within the larger desire. You can say your intention aloud, lighting your candle, as if it’s already done and in present tense. 

Lighting your candle in the beginning as you say aloud your intention ignites the spark of desire. 

Visualize your desire as if it’s here NOW. Take a few moments to emotionally and sensually connect to the vision, feeling and sensation of your desire being true. As if it’s done already and you’re currently experiencing the unfolding manifestation. 

Feel the emotions NOW in your heart and body. Do you feel gratitude? Excitement? Peace? 

Feel the sensations as you visualize in your body. Do you feel the red silk sheets under your naked body as you roll around in orgasmic bliss with your new lover? Do you smell their scent? Do you feel your lips smiling as you laugh out loud, high on love and sex? 

Make it feel as real as possible, emotionally and sensually. 

Cultivate sexual energy. Do some practices that awaken, build and circulate your sexual energy. I teach several sexual energy practices in my courses and my free offerings as well. The simplest thing is breath work. You can inhale energy up the back of your spine into your head and exhale it down the front of your body back into your genitals. 

You can gently squeeze your pelvic floor muscles on the inhale and release on the exhale, using sound, touch and movement to enhance the pleasure and sexual energy circulation up and down your spine.  If you’re feeling extra saucy you can insert a jade egg while you do your sexual energy practices. 

Other ways to build sexual energy are breast massage, the jade egg practice, erotic dance, sensual movement, connecting with nature, Kundalini shaking, other forms of breath work, etc. 

Move into your sex magic self pleasure practice. You can get the entire step-by-step process here. This is where you get really into it. You’ve created your ritual circle, invited in your shadow self, set your intention and started to build sexual energy. Now it’s time to self pleasure with your intention in mind. 

As you orgasm or enter an extended orgasm state (or both), imagine your desire/intention shooting out of the crown of your head into the cosmos. Surrendering it there. 

Release what doesn’t serve on a deeper level. Take out a piece of paper and a pen. Write down anything that comes to mind that your’e ready to let go of. What stands in the way of your desires? What are you afraid will happen if you have what you want? Get really honest. 

Then, read it aloud to yourself or the moon, tear it up and burn it away in your cauldron or fire-safe container. Offer the ashes to mother earth as a gesture and offering of gratitude, renewal and rebirth. 

Write down your new desires. Take out another piece of paper and write down all of the juicy, magical, practical and amazing things you want to call in or manifest over the next moon cycle or longer. Don’t censor yourself. Don’t worry about how logical or probable your desires are. Let your inner lust and the deep stirrings within lead the way. 

Keep this paper nearby and read it aloud to yourself daily (and right now as well) so you can stay connected to and turned on by your desires. 

If you’re feeling stuck at any point in your ritual, you can play with divination tools like tarot or oracle cards, runes, scrying, using a pendulum or other forms of divining. I always do a full tarot spread for myself on new and full moons.

It helps me see where I might be stuck, what good is currently unfolding and what actions to take next to allow more abundance, pleasure, love and rich sex. 

Close your ritual and circle. If there are other things you intend to do during your ritual, now is the time. This could be taking a cleansing new moon bath, making some herbal tea, journaling, dancing, moon gazing/bathing (even though the moon is dark you can still feel it), basking in your orgasmic afterglow for a while longer, creating an altar for your new desire list or pulling tarot cards. 

Once you feel complete within, you can close your circle. I like to walk in the opposite direction (counter-clockwise this time) beginning in East and moving to North, West and then South back to East. I say the invocation that I am closing the ritual and circle, allowing the magic to keep doing it’s thing. 

I hope you enjoy this new moon sex magic ritual! This is such a powerful time to harness the power of your sexual energy and ritual sex magic, especially during auspicious new moons, is a magical experience that will change your life. 

Enjoy, lover.

xx

Amber