I received an amazing question from a beautiful woman who messaged me last week on Instagram and I wanted to create a video around it, because let’s face it, what we’re talking about today is a complex topic.
Her question: can you have casual sex that is connected? This question piqued my sexual playfulness and curiosity, because it’s a great question and I know she’s not alone in wondering this.
I also asked the women in my private Facebook group about their thoughts, experiences and questions around casual sex. If you commented, thank you sooo much!
Some common upsides to casual sex that women mentioned:
- Expressing a part of our normal and healthy sexual appetite as sexual creatures who’ve always been that way since ancient times
- Being more in control of their sexuality and choosing their sexual experiences
- Convenience and fun to express different sides of their sexual personality (like submission or dominance, for example)
- Through experience you learn WHO you are a sexual woman, what turns you on, what doesn’t and then you can share that with future partners (whether casual or not)
- You learn what your boundaries are when it comes to sex
Some of the common downsides that women mentioned:
- Coming out of the sexual experience not feeling so great
- Feeling disconnected afterwards OR attached like they can’t keep it casual
- Feeling like they gave something away or lost something
- Feeling disrespected, judged or slut shamed by the man (or woman) they slept with or by other women
- Feeling empty, unfulfilled and like it was a mistake
- Regretting having slept with them
- Feeling residual energy from ex lovers residing in their bodies
Now I understand casual sex isn’t for everyone. This is just us opening up the conversation so we can truly get to know what works for each of us. What works for YOU.
The first time I ever had sex was a casual experience with one of my best guy friends and part of me wished, at the time, that I’d held off a bit longer. But other casual experiences I had were much more fun and helped me find out what I wanted and what I didn’t.
Maybe you’ve never had casual sexual experiences, maybe you have, maybe you don’t want to or you’re curious about it right now.
Whatever it is, this week’s video is an honest, raw and real conversation and discussion about sexuality for single women or those who are partnered and have an agreement for casual sex within the relationship.
I share my current relationship with casual sex, my past experiences with it, helpful tips to have casual sex that leaves you feeling confident, fulfilled and more in love with yourself PLUS some deep dive questions, philosophies and concepts to play with to make sure you’re going into casual sex from that healthy, loving, sacred space.
Because you’re worthy, beautiful, amazing and your sexuality is not to be fucked with!
Let’s get into this. Watch the video below and open yourself up to the conversation around casual sex!
You can download a free copy of my Jade Egg Sexual Mastery ebook if you want to learn the secrets of the sexual practice that will help you awaken vaginal pleasure, deep orgasms and more!
This is also a way to train yourself to contain, cultivate and consciously protect and circulate your own sexual energy by no longer leaking it out of your vagina due to a weak pelvic floor!
I would love for you to share this video with any woman in your life who might be considering or experiencing casual sex right now so we can open the conversation up deeper! You can subscribe to my YouTube channel here to stay updated with my weekly video.
Now an invitation for you to go deeper:
- Have you ever experienced casual sex (or other sexual experiences)?
- How did you/do you feel before, during and after?
- What excites you the most about casual sex?
- Or how is it not right for you at the moment?