In honor of Valentine’s day, which is this Saturday, I wanted to write about a topic that is incredibly important to me. Not only is it important to me, but it’s essential for me to live a deeply blissful, enchanting, and truly sacred and fulfilling life.
I’m talking about self-love. I like to refer to it as sacred self-love, because loving ourselves completely is one of the most powerful, healing, and transcendental gifts we can give to ourselves.
I’m all about living a life that is healing, uplifting, pleasurable, sensual, sacred, blissful and transcends all that I’ve ever thought was possible. Each time I shed a new layer I realize there are so many more layers to shed. So many more ways to heal and experience pleasure and release things that no longer serve me. I find new ways to transcend my ego and get one step closer to my highest self.
What I truly want is for you to experience this exact feeling. This exact healing and sacred self-love that can transform your body, mind and spirit along with your entire life. Sacred self-love can turn your world upside down and I mean that in the best way possible.
Let me elaborate. The best kind of self-love will leave you feeling juicy, desirable, sensual and ready to explore and travel deeper into yourself on all levels. It will leave you feeling energized, replenished and tapped into who you are and what you truly desire. When you are tapped into this knowing, you can get even more clear on your desires and actually begin to manifest them.
Self-love can make you radiate as a woman. Your sacred feminine energy is a source that can make you feel alive and insatiable. It will make you hungry for more. More life. More abundance. More love. More of all that you desire.
This feeling is where you are in true alignment. You are thriving, not just surviving.
I don’t think that love, whether it be towards your partner, others, or yourself should be reserved for one day of the year. I actually enjoy Valentine’s day, but not for the commercial, materialistic reasons.
As much as I enjoy all of the hearts, flowers, and boxes of chocolate, I’m really into Valentine’s day because it’s like love is supercharged that day. What if you focused that supercharged loving energy towards yourself for once?
What if you slowed down, turned inwards, and asked yourself, “What do I truly desire? How do I want to FEEL? How can I LOVE myself more? What do I need right now?”
I think that you should do this every single day. Every day should have this supercharged love feeling. Love should be the answer for everything and the most prominent emotion you feel, generate and display to others.
Love is the most potent medicine. So if you’re feeling a little drained or lacking that self-love medicine, fear not, because I’m about to guide you through some amazing rituals that will help you get the love flowing for the rest of your life. Love should never run out. It should always over-flow, especially towards yourself. So let’s dive into this, shall we?
- Accept yourself: First off, everyone has “flaws,” blocks, and pain that we’re constantly working through in order to heal. The first step to sacred self-love is to accept yourself truly and completely. Accept where you are right now in your journey. Accept all of those things you dislike about yourself. Your physical appearance, your body, mind and spirit. Your thoughts. Your accomplishments, achievements, and direction. Your blocks and intentions. Accept it all. You are perfect because you are you. So release the self-judgement and consider this: you are the only person in the whole wide world who will EVER know you fully, inside and out. While there may be certain people who know a whole lot about you, you are the only person who can experience and understand each and every one of your thoughts, needs, wants, desires, emotions, etc. You are in the ultimate relationship with yourself, so treat yourself like you would a lover and partner. Be kind, gentle, compassionate and forgiving towards yourself.
- Live sensually: Connect to your sacred, sensual feminine energy by using your senses each and every day. I’m a definite advocate for living life in a more sacred, feminine and sensual space within the heart and spirit so we can feel, heal and experience everything fully. What makes you feel sensual? What makes you feel deliciously feminine? I like to invite more sensual pleasure into my day by cooking nourishing tasty food and enjoying it slowly. Indulge in a glass of red wine while you take a steaming, hot bath. Take a walk outdoors and notice the stars gleaming down at you from the onyx black night sky. Breathe deeply every chance you get. Our breath is what connects us to our universal life force energy, our creative energy, aaaand our sexual energy. This is pretty magical energy. FEEL everything and try to engage all of your senses at once.
- Put yourself first: You might think this is selfish, but it’s not. Sacred self-love is all about taking care of yourself first. How can you truly support, uplift, and care for others if you feel depleted, exhausted, lost, and malnourished? It’s not a good feeling. So fill your own cup first and let it overflow! Take an entire day devoted to yourself if you need to (or longer!) Get some extra sleep. The delicious, magical sleep where your dreams blur into reality and you feel ripe with pleasure upon waking. Eat a piece of chocolate indulgently and allow yourself to melt deeper into your own body. Take care of yourself in whatever way feels right for you. The more you do this, the easier it will be for you to show up in life and provide support, care and encouragement towards those you care about or any projects you’re passionate about.
- Trust yourself: Your intuition is your internal GPS, there to navigate the path and guide you through the darkness into the light. How often do you trust yourself and the universe? How often do you listen, and I mean truly lean in and listen, to yourself and your needs, wants, and desires? How often do you tell yourself you’re going to do something and then you blow it off or push it to a later date? Well, now is the time to cut that shit out. Trust yourself. You are on the exact path you need to be and your intuition is there to illuminate the way. She is your best friend, your savior, your spiritual guide. So listen in and keep promises you make to yourself. When you get those little nudges, gentle whispers or you feel something in your gut, slow down and explore it. Feel it. Allow the wisdom to cultivate and develop so you can live the life you truly desire and manifest the life of your wildest dreams! Self-love is the start to this!
So now that we’ve established that sacred self-love is not reserved just for days like Valentine’s day and that self-love really should be pleasurable and an indulgence, let’s agree to keep the love flowing. Nothing feels greater than sinking deeper into love and transcending those layers of ourselves. Go ahead and indulge in some chocolate and buy yourself some red roses (one of my personal favorites!) in honor of the upcoming LOVE holiday. <3
Leave me a comment below and tell me what is your favorite way to show yourself some radical, sacred self-love?
xx