The most passionate lovers I’ve encountered so far in my life have had certain qualities in common that really made our time together a true erotic love affair. Regardless of how long it lasted.
It’s what makes them such a passionate lover. It’s what left me feeling opened even deeper than I thought was possible, heart and pussy wide open.
So what are the qualities of a lover that seem to burn so hot that it scorches you in all of the good places?
Like in between your legs, melting your thighs open to be penetrated to your core with ease by their presence and cock. Like in your heart, burning away the walls and cold, calcified pieces that guard you from eternal love.
These are the qualities I’ve found that have made me quiver from the inside out, open deeper to their love and feel the sultry heat of their sexual energy filling me from head to toe…
DEVOTION
PRESENCE
LOVE
Devotion is what makes a passionate lover.
Presence is what makes a passionate lover.
Love is what makes a passionate lover.
These three qualities together are a triple threat that will heal your wounds, unleash your emotions (in a healthy, liberating way) and leave you feeling as though you’ve been eternally branded by the most intense, heart-opening, mind-blowing, ego-shattering experience.
Branded by LOVE. Real love. True love. Raw, vulnerable, intimate love.
Love that feels like rich, sultry red wine flowing through your veins.
Love that feels like warm golden honey pooling in between your legs.
Love that leaves you changed forever.
Being a passionate lover is not just about the level of devotion, presence and love you present sexually, but also how much of that you bring outside of the bedroom.
Someone who fucks you open with their eyes. A lusty, heated gaze. Or just seeing into YOU, recognizing you — all parts of you. Witnessing you. Holding space for you with their present gaze.
Someone who is devoted to going deeper when it’s much easier to stay above surface.
Someone who is devoted to exploring every inch of your sensual, erotic body with their tongue, hands, fingertips, eyes, lips, cock…with their whole body and BEING.
They don’t just make love to you with their cock. They don’t just fuck you in between your legs.
They make love to your soul. They fuck your mind and heart wide open.
They are THERE with you. Through every breath. Every undulation. Every ripple and wave of pleasure and orgasm. Every fear, emotion and moment of wanting to shut down.
Instead of running away from your walls, they thrust through them with devotion, presence and love. They hold you. Kiss you. Fuck you. Melt you open.
Instead of walking away defeated when you turn off your feminine light and sensual radiance, they seduce it back on. They make love to you until you come alive again. They invite you to trust. To be opened.
What does devotion look like?
Devotion is a level of dedication, adoration, affection and commitment to going deeper with you. It’s being dedicated to the path that you share together, regardless of how long it’s “expected” or “meant” to last. Even if it’s one day or 20 lifetimes.
It’s being willing to explore, release, find, receive, penetrate and keep going in order to reach a new level of love, ecstasy and soul-level union together.
It’s being willing to see when things are becoming shallow, disconnected, hidden and repressed between you. When walls are going up and becoming thicker, day by day. When you are running, hiding or turning away from one another.
Devotion is being willing to go deeper, reconnect, reveal yourself and resurrect the hidden layers between you.
Devotion is knocking the walls down, day by day. Devotion is staying, showing up and opening yourself to each other when it’s the last thing you want to do.
What does presence look like?
Presence is a commitment to being with you, wholly and completely, on a body, mind, heart and soul level. Fully. In the now. In each moment of now as the seconds tick by and not wavering for one moment. Not dropping into ego.
He stays in his heart and cock consciousness as you are in your own heart and pussy consciousness by being in EACH moment and dropping your awareness into those regions of your body simultaneously.
Presence is holding space for the demons and shadows to come out to play. Dancing with them. Making love to them and noticing them.
Witnessing them. Seeing them with awareness but without judgment. Without wanting to fix or solve the underlying cause, but just being in that space with you.
Holding you in your emotions and being the masculine container for which you can feel the emotions in between the steady and solid walls of his presence.
You feel safe and as though you can drop fully into the deepest, darkest space of your shadows or the deepest, holiest space of your love.
You don’t question his integrity or presence because you know and feel him with you, completely. His eyes burn into you and he’s not letting you off the hook and you wouldn’t want him to.
You want his presence to SEE the smallest, hidden parts of yourself — the parts that feel unlovable, unsafe, unworthy and unacceptable. And he is there with you so much so that he can read your energy.
He can feel your sighs, your quivers, your closing or opening heart, your love that flows like molten hot lava, your sultry sexual energy.
He can feel and know it all in the moment as it comes and goes. Ebbs and flows. Rises and falls, just like your breath.
What does love look like?
Love looks like true affection and feeling from the very core of his heart into yours where you circulate it back to him through your own radiant, feminine heart.
It’s the expansive, all-consuming sensation and feeling of euphoria. Feeling as though you are One.
Where the erotic and complete Oneness of everyone and everything (inside and outside of you) merge inside of your body, heart and soul, individually and together. It’s where you merge, not to complete one another, but to form an even bigger whole together.
To co-create in the name of the most sought after feeling, emotion, sensation, experience: LOVE.
The indescribable. The impenetrable. The ever-flowing current that fills, creates, spreads through your whole body and being and surrounds everything in its entirety.
It simply transcends time and space. It is formless. The cosmic, yet embodied dance between life-force and consciousness.
It’s vulnerable, intimate, raw and yet feels like you’re always opening, softening, being filled and consumed.
The beautiful and divine feeling of being engulfed, enveloped, swaddled and taken into the highest knowing of WHO you are intimately through the eyes and heart of another.
These are the three most essential qualities that are what makes a passionate lover. At least to me. These are qualities I can’t live without in a lover or in MYSELF.
Yes, it all starts within.
How devoted are you to yourself?
How present are you with yourself?
How deeply do you open to love in yourself and with others?
Being an exquisite solo lover is what helps you transcend being an ordinary lover into the realm of being an incredibly passionate lover, both with yourself and with another. A devoted, present and loving individual who can give and receive love and sexual energy in order to rise higher and embody deeper into your truth.
I’m going to be releasing a brand new ebook soon devoted to helping you become the most exquisite lover…to yourself. This includes cultivating a deeper sexual relationship with yourself and I’ll be showing you how you can do that while having deeper pleasure, incredible orgasms and more exquisite solo sex.
Until then, I’d love for you to comment below:
- Are these three qualities essential for you in a passionate lover?
- What other qualities are you craving?
- How can you embody them in yourself first?
xx
Amber