For years I felt uncomfortable and awkward in my own sexuality. Seduction wasn’t something I was good at.

Any attempts I made with old lovers were met with jokes, rejection or comments about what I looked like or what was wrong with my body — the opposite of feeling seen as sexy or seductive.

I remember writhing around on the floor trying to look sexy and an ex of mine said my neck looked like a worm. Or the time I was sending sexy photos to a guy friend and he said “no close up pictures of your snatch.”

All of these experiences caused me to mistrust my ability to seduce and feel sexy. So I shut down my inner seductress. I obviously wasn’t sexy enough or “good at” seduction.

I settled for being cute, pretty, beautiful…but not sexy or seductive. I buried my seductress deep inside. And she was pissed.

She came out in all kinds of twisted ways to hopefully get a small amount of attention.

Things like…

• Dressing up “slutty” for Halloween — but you know only on Halloween when it was “allowed”.
• Being a dick tease as the boys called me.
• Begging for attention from other men when I was in a relationship.
• Feeling uncomfortable around and jealous of women who exuded their eroticism.

I felt like something was missing or fundamentally wrong with me.

I told myself that I wasn’t that kind of woman — a seductress.

Here’s the thing though: it was all a lie and the more I buried, denied and repressed my own seductres, the more twisted and manipulative she became. That’s why I work with a sexual shadow archetype called the inner shadow seductress. She’s my seductress in her shadow form. The one who’s been neglected, hidden away, shamed and demonized.

It wasn’t until I began having an erotic relationship with myself that I realized one key thing when it comes to seduction…

…which is what we’re playing with in this week’s video.

Watch below to learn the #1 key to seducing your lover so good that it’s like drawing bees to honey. (;

What I realized is that I have to seduce myself first. Seduction isn’t something you do. It’s an energy you embody. It’s a state of being.

Seduction isn’t just about sexy striptease, provocative lap dances and barely there lingerie (although I LOVE all of that & so does my seductress)…it’s about how you allow your breath to dance through your body, sending shivers up and down your own spine.

It’s letting the juices of a ripe peach flow down your chin as you eat it. It’s stroking your own body for pleasure.

It’s stoking your own erotic fires. Seduction used to feel fake and ungrounded for me and sometimes I still get caught up in trying to get approval and love (or sex) that way or from a more performative seduction (which again, can be fun to play with) but now I focus more on enjoying myself and seducing myself.

Seduction is all about enjoying yourself, being in your pleasure and feeling every erotic cell in your body come alive.

Turn on some music, slow down your breath, stroke and caress yourself. Scratch, bite, lick yourself. Smack your own ass. Pull your own hair. It doesn’t have to be for anyone but you.

And if you wanna seduce your lover, now you know!

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO:

• Erotic Blueprint Quiz by Jaiya

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Seduction will be a main focus in lesson 4 of the program…here’s a teaser of the curriculum for lesson 4. 

LESSON 4: SEDUCING YOURSELF & YOUR LOVER WITH EROTIC ARCHETYPES & SELF ROLE PLAY

In this lesson we’ll explore:

• Embodying your seductress archetype and using her to get what you want (with total love)
• Why seduction begins with you and how to seduce yourself so good that you almost don’t need your lover (;
• Erotic intimacy mirror work rituals for worshiping yourself
• Erotic eye gazing ritual to tap into TWO types of seduction: the invitation and the penetration
• How to get your partner to worship you like a true fucking goddess
• How to move from feeling like you’re just roomates to passionate lovers
• The fail-proof technique to seducing your lover without worrying about rejection
• How to seduce your deepest desires and sexual shadows out to play
• Erotic play rituals to do with yourself and your partner
• How to increase erotic friction between you and your lover so that you’re begging to fuck each other
• How to use erotic self role play and partnered role play to amplify sexual attraction, polarity and desire
• How to move through comparison, jealousy or being triggered by another womxn using erotic self role play

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With erotic love,

x

Amber

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