You keep trying to raise your standard to a new level in sex, money, business & with clients.
But why isn’t it locking in yet as your new norm?
Why isn’t it what you’re currently experiencing consistently?
Here are 7 reasons why you keep trying to raise your standards for more money, hotter sex & being THAT bitch, but it’s not locked in as your new norm…yet.🍷
Don’t worry — I have an intriguing & effective solution for you at the end!
I’ll also share some tips on what to do to help lock it in below…
01. You’re available for what’s still here MORE than you’re available for what you actually want.
You’re entertaining your current situation staying the same…or sometimes getting even worse.
I know those 3 am doomsday spirals where suddenly you’re picturing yourself not being able to pay rent/your mortgage or having to drop out of the coaching container you’re in.
You keep saying you’re not available for things to stay the same, but you also keep expecting to be disappointed by focusing on how things won’t or haven’t changed.
Or you make decisions based on things staying as they are…not from where you choose for them to be.
02. You keep putting energy, attention & time into keeping things the same.
How? By imagining the worst case scenario…like I said.
Then, taking (stressed the fuck out) actions to prevent that instead of taking action to move towards what you DO want.
And expecting the worst case scenario instead of best case.
Sometimes your mind spirals into doomsday land & before you know it, your body sensations are giving you the unwanted experience right now (even though it’s not actually happening).
03. You’re dropping your desire (like a hot potato) to a lower version when it seems like it’s not happening fast enough.
You might say things like “I really want $30k months, but as long as I make ends meet each month with a little extra cash to spend, I’ll be ok.”
Or “I’m not going to say yes to penetration before I’m ready” but it’s taking “too long” for you to open up sexually…so you say yes when you’re still not ready.
Then, sulk when you don’t get what you want. (Sulking is soooo kinky & fun, I know).
04. You perceive pain or discomfort on the other side of your new level & it doesn’t feel safe.
If you think being erotically expressed means you’ll get unwanted attention or making fuck tons of money means you’ll have to work harder to maintain or manage it…
…then raising your standards to move towards that might feel unsafe — which is why doing it incrementally & getting stable there can shift your situation much faster.
05. You’re not willing to sit in the discomfort (that can feel like plane turbulence) between who you were & who you’re becoming.
It’s so fucking uncomfortable to be in the in-between space. Not who you were anymore but not quite who you’re becoming.
Are you willing to sit in the discomfort & learn to press into those erotic edges with pleasure & trust?
06. You can’t seem to see yourself as the woman who has that new standard & norm…so you take actions that align with where you are vs where you want to be.
The identity that you’re used to vs who you feel you’re meant to be deep down.
Then, your self image reaffirms that, which only reinforces the cycle of not being able to see yourself as the one to have/be/do that.
Or saying things like “I just can’t seem to…” or “What if I’m not actually meant for that?” & feeling unworthy of the new financial & erotic identity.
Imagine walking into the fanciest, most luxurious &/or edgiest space you desire to be in…do you feel like you belong there? That’s where your work gets to be.
Maybe it’s the Chanel store, a luxury car dealership, the penthouse suite you want, a retreat in Greece or a local BDSM community, etc.
07. You don’t feel worthy or deserving of it.
A part of you might feel like you’re not worthy, like you have to earn it, that you don’t fit in or belong, that it’s too good to be true, the other shoe will drop or that things don’t get to be this good for you.
Maybe you have a family with infamous “things don’t work out for us” sayings…like how when something inconvenient happens my mom always “if it’s not one thing, it’s another.”
So you keep yourself exactly where you are so you don’t have to feel the discomfort of not feeling deserving, good enough or worthy enough.
If you’re thinking “WTF bitch! I do one or all of these…how do I stop doing this & finally lock it in as my norm?” then I’ve got you!💋
01. Normalize it. It’s part of being human!
Guess what? I do these too! I’ve just gotten better at noticing it & shifting it faster & more efficiently.
02. Meet yourself where you are.
Find ways to bring the standard & norm into your current situation so that it becomes regular, consistent & safe in your body.
03. Incremental upgrades that compound over time.
Does it feel better to release pressure on transforming overnight & to let yourself slowly shift over time by incrementally increasing your exposure to the new standard?
04. How do you think you’re going to feel as this version of yourself where it’s locked in?
Pick 3 feelings or emotions & practice holding those frequencies for 30 seconds each every day AS SENSATIONS in your body.
🔥BONUS if you bring pleasure, soothing or erotic energy in while you hold them.
05. Titrate your way there (& stop making yourself bad or wrong).
So fucking what if you make $30k one month & then $10k the next? Or have the deepest orgasm of your life but feel shut down the next day.
Sometimes we go bigger, pull back a bit & repeat the cycle until we stabilize at the new level.
When we make “dips” or “contractions” mean something, that’s when we tend to hold ourselves back from having more of what we want.
Make it mean nothing and it’s neutral. Not a big deal. You can move on.
06. Get deep mentorship & support long-term so that your body can take it’s time stabilizing to something unfamiliar as “the new way things are/work for you.”
You get to be deeply held as you attune to more of what you want.
07. Meet safety, worthiness, contraction, expansion, growth, pleasure at an energetic & sensational level IN YOUR BODY.
We are energy first & your body will tell you whether your energy is open or closed so that you can bring safety in for the energy to flow.
This is why I’m offering my 30 Day MIND-BLOWING MONEY Sex Magic Incubator for $333 off until 9 pm EST tomorrow!
Because it takes consistency, safety, willingness, devotion, pleasure, courage & sometimes time to lock your new standard in as your new norm.
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💋We playfully cultivate your self image (so you can actually see yourself as the one who has hotter sex, more money, luxe things)
🔥We regulate the nervous system to associate expansion, continual evolution & mind-blowing (unfamiliar) growth with safety, pleasure & certainty
💰We meet worthiness at the deepest place in your body WITH love, pleasure & eros.
Are you ready to blow your own mind over and over again in the bedroom, business and bank account…and know it’s not a fluke?
