Have you ever felt like your relationship…which was once filled with passionate sex, staying up past Midnight to have deep conversations and so much erotic tension between you that it felt like a current of electricity…has now turned into a platonic roomate situation?

The sexy lovemaking and deep talks turn into repetive nights of endless scrolling through social media next to each other in bed, barely saying a word.

And definitely not feeling like you’re being met, felt, seen and fucked to your core.

I’ve definitely been there before. Before my current partner and lover, Andy, I lived with an ex, who I was engaged to at that time. We only lived together a few months, but we quickly went from passionately in love to the distance between us feeling like it spanned for miles.

That relationship was tumulutous and constantly on and off for about six years.

Between that relationship and my current one I’ve done a ton of healing and journeying into my own eroticism and the relationship with myself.

I still notice that at times in my current relationship, I have walls that come up. I get defensive. Cold. I feel alone. I put up guards that protect my heart and pussy.

On occasion, I still shut down and feel distant. Like we don’t know who each other is anymore or we’re too friendly…like roommates. Or we’re just talking about bills, venting at each other about what’s stressing us out or talking about the baby too much.

During those times I wonder if something is wrong with me (or him) or if we’re just not meant to be.

If I really spiral out of control, then I start to question the relationship itself and get angry about the lack of sexual desire and erotic connection. I blame myself. I blame him.

I stir the pot and rock the boat with drama and avoidance just to feel a pulse in our relationship.

I might punish him or give him the cold shoulder. I feel like parts of myself long to be seen and fucked open by him. I feel like I’m hiding in plain sight.

That is devastating.

Thankfully, I’ve learned a lot over the years and am still on my journey in this current relationship.

I’ve learned that there are certain things that really kill the erotic connection, intimacy and desire in my relationship.

There are also things that revive it, resuscitate it, resurrect it…AND deepen it at the same time.

In today’s video I’ll share 6 things that can potentially kill the erotic desire in your relationship and sex life PLUS several tips you can do to essentially pour erotic gasoline on the fire of your desire (;

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO:

• The 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman
• Erotic Blueprint Quiz by Jaiya

Sign up for my 4-Part RECLAIMING YOUR EROTICISM Video Series here.

I’ll be teaching you how to unlock your true erotic natue, power and pleasure and feel safe, confident and excited to bring your eroticism into your partnership or sexual relationships. 

This includes being comfortable to….

• Voice your pleasure and turn on when having sex or touch your own body in the presence of your partner or lover
• Feel more uninhibited and like you can express whatever is moving through you during sex
• Ask for what you want and need and share your deepest desires without fear of being judged, shamed or rejected
• Express emotions when they come up and not have it mean that sex or intimacy has to end unless you want it to
• Work through rejection, triggers or sexual shut down when they happen during sex AND feel more turned on, connected and seen in your erotic partnership at the same time
• Explore fantasies with your partner and keep intimacy, erotic love and connection ALIVE
• Surrender into deeper orgasmic experiences with yourself and your partner
• Be seen in your true erotic nature without freaking your partner out

I totally get that this level of intimacy and transparency can seem terrifying, but in the RECLAIMING YOUR EROTICISM VIDEO SERIES we’ll explore why it’s the #1 key to really having the kind of erotic relationships and sex you crave deep down.

With erotic love,

x

Amber

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